Adulting isn’t buying groceries or worrying about your online order delivery. Adulting is overcoming a panic attack on your own. Life flashes in front of your eyes in a blink, yet you feel lost in the crowd is adulting. Life would put you in situations you would have never imagined yourself. Earlier this week, my limbs froze as I struggled to hold on to a yoga pose. I fell on my mat and tried on the rise again as I heard my yoga teacher motivate me through the screen. I felt my tears and sweat together on my cheeks. I failed and failed yesterday on the mat. Well, that’s adulting! You fall and yet choose to live with that!
I promised not to shed tears this year. Starting in January, I am already failing to keep this promise. A sunny morning, great news at work, cooked lunch, and no transportation issue – Well, that’s quite a morning for an adult. I opened my Instagram in the evening, and my heart sank. My ex is now a father to a cute baby girl. I took my phone in milliseconds and decided to give him a call. We spoke for a few minutes, and I couldn’t control my tears over the phone. No one taught me that we have to deal with situations of sorts. My heart is delighted to see him reach this stage in life. We started as college kids, and we matured. I shivered while I held the phone and continued the conversation. I felt two mature people having a conversation, two college friends celebrating another one’s parenthood. Yet, my heart kept consoling me for the lost battle.
No one taught me how to feel less lonely looking at this sight. No one taught me the harsh reality of adulthood would hit hard in the gut. Adulting taught me to be happy and gather the courage to fight uncomfortable conversations. It taught me that I am the sailor of my sinking ship. There is no end to achievements and accomplishments in life. Yet, we tend to compare our lives, but our journeys are so unique. There are days when you don’t wish to be an adult. But you get up, dress up and show up. Loneliness gives me creep on some days.